As you know, we’re already past the middle of No-Nut November. So I thought I would take this opportunity to check in with you guys and see how you’re all doing with it. Is everyone coming along okay, or are some of you struggling?
If you are indeed struggling, don’t worry. I guarantee you’re not alone. Many guys, especially if this is their first No-Nut November, struggle with getting started with orgasm denial. It’s perfectly normal, and there is help out there for you. I’m here for moral support, and so are many others on the Internet.
What Else Can You Do With Your Energy In No-Nut November?
A very common question I get asked around this time every year is, “What else can I do with my energy in No-Nut November?” Sexual energy, as you know doubt are aware, is very powerful. It demands to be released in some way or another. The easiest way, of course, is just to jerk off. That’s the simplest method for dissipating built-up sexual energy.
But what do you do when you’re abstaining from orgasms for a month (or more)? Well, you have to figure out a way to transmute that energy and take it higher. For some of you, this might mean you channel it into more creative pursuits, like painting or woodworking. For others, it might mean working extra hard to please your Mistress. I always advocate for submissive men to really dig into their desire to serve when they’re being denied orgasm. I find it makes them more attentive, more focused subs.
If you don’t have a Mistress currently and creativity isn’t really your thing, you can try working on your body. If you don’t work out, start. And if you do, try making your routine more challenging for yourself. It’s a good way to get some of that energy out so it’s not just hanging out inside, driving you crazy!
What If You Fail?
Another common question I get asked around this time every year is, “What if I fail?” (By “fail,” I mean you slip up and masturbate or cum without permission.)
Well, a lot of guys’ initial reaction to failing is to just give up. They think that all their efforts have been wasted, so why not go back to jerking off like a crazy person? But I think that’s the wrong way to look at it. It’s like falling off the wagon. You shouldn’t discount the progress you’ve already made just because you slipped up once.
For instance, I had a guy in chastity who recently had to remove himself from the device he was wearing. He had to come out of it, due to a family trip. While he was out, he relapsed and started stroking without permission. He didn’t cum, so he didn’t technically break his No-Nut November vow. But he did masturbate without being told to, so he did sort of slip up in that regard.
If this had been you, what would you have done? Would you give up and quit right there on the spot? Would you come to me for punishment to help you get over the guilt of disobeying? Or would you just get right back to it?
(This particular guy admitted what he did and then went back to abstaining. I was very proud of him for being honest with me and communicating with me what he needed. He went right back to being in chastity. However, he has had to start his number of days over.)
Tell me what you think! I’d love to hear it.
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
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