You know, usually when we’re talking about limits in terms of BDSM, we’re talking about a sub’s limits. You know, the kinds of things the sub will and won’t “allow” (for lack of a better word) his Mistress to do to him. And that’s great! Those conversations should always be had before you enter into a D/s relationship with anyone. And those conversations should be revisited from time to time during the course of that relationship, too, because limits can change.
Dommes Can Have Limits, Too
But one thing people in the kink world often forget is that Dom/mes are allowed to have limits, too. If there’s something I don’t want to do, I won’t be doing it. I don’t care how much it turns another person on. If it’s not my thing, I’m not interested, and you’re not going to change my mind about that.
This applies to both real-life domination that I do and all my sessions over the phone. If I’m not feeling something, I can say no. I love that LDW allows me the freedom to do that. It shows that they respect and appreciate me as a person. And when you subs respect my limits and boundaries, it shows that you see me as a human being and not a fetish dispenser.
I Love Domination Phone Sex
You see, I love what I do. And I’m not going to let anything come between me and my love for my work. I love what I do and who I get to interact with. Everything about it is fantastic. And, no, I will not stop doing it, not for a very long time.
So you can rest assured that when you talk to me, I’m enjoying your company and having fun with your fantasy. I’m actually a terrible liar because I’m very forthright and frank. So if I were not enjoying it, you’d know! But because I don’t do the kinds of calls I don’t enjoy (like giantess calls, for instance), that is never an issue.
Your respect of my limits and boundaries actually helps me to love what I do even more. Knowing that you understand that I have things I don’t like and that you won’t annoy me to do them, anyway, means I can relax and have fun. It means neither of us will have to contend with a person we’re not compatible with. And it means that if we are compatible, we’ll definitely have a good time together!
“No” Is A Full Sentence
You sometimes hear people say that “No” is a full sentence. You can just say “No,” that you don’t want to do something, without offering an explanation. Sure, explaining your point of view might be nice, but you don’t owe that to anyone. Your limits are your limits, and that’s that. This applies equally to Dommes and subs.
“No” is a very powerful word. It takes back your power. It doesn’t allow others to walk all over you. It’s an extremely important tool to have in your arsenal, both as a Domme and as a sub. Always remember that, even if you forget everything else I’ve ever taught you!
Oh, guys, I forgot to tell you! I got so carried away in this blog about limits that I almost didn’t tell you that August is my anniversary month at LDW. I’ve been here for ten years, and I’ve loved every moment of it. (And part of the reason for that is the aforementioned respect for my limits!) So I hope you’ll help me celebrate this month with lots of exciting calls and fun comments on my blog posts. Talk to you soon!
Until next time!
Anniversary Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
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