I’ve been thinking quite a bit lately about being a Femdom and what it means to me. “Femdom” is another one of those words that can mean something different to everyone you ask about it. But I think most of us can agree that it means “dominant woman.” After that, though, the definition becomes a little murkier because what does it mean to be a dominant woman? Well, I think it depends on who you are and what your mindset is.
Trying To Define Yourself
Defining yourself in practice is often much more difficult than it seems in theory. Perhaps you define yourself as a sissy, a cuckold, or a cocksucker. We all have a general idea of what those labels mean. Each one signifies something different, but the specifics are left up to us to decide. The same is true for being and identifying as a Femdom.
Some dominant women don’t like the term because they claim it summons up thoughts of a strict porn dominatrix in latex and leather, waving a whip about. But I actually do like being called a Femdom. There’s something exciting to me about the juxtaposition of what some people think of as a Femdom and me. I mean, I am definitely a dominant woman. But you’re probably not going to find me in latex, waving a whip anytime soon!
But I think that dichotomy is an interesting one. There’s the stereotypical image of a Femdom, and then there’s me. I enjoy playing around with stereotypes like that (and ultimately shattering them).
Dealing With Disrespect
For many people, the image of the Femdom commands respect. But if you’re a Mistress, you also have to understand that some people get off on being disrespectful. You have to be able to live with that. You call out that behavior if you think it’ll make a difference, and you simply ignore it if you think it won’t. Those are about the only options there are when dealing with disrespect, both as a Femdom and as a person in general.
But of course, some people want to challenge you because it makes them feel better about themselves. These people are usually rather miserable in their everyday lives. You’ve heard the statement that misery loves company? These kinds of people hope that by being disrespectful, they can drag others down with them. But that never works for me. I can see through such behavior, and I know how to keep it moving!
Being A Femdom Is Very Rewarding
You do sometimes have to deal with such people, but for the most part, I find being a Femdom very rewarding. I am dominant by nature; people follow my lead naturally. And I enjoy being a leader. Some may feel burdened by the responsibilities inherent in leading. But I don’t. I find that the challenge just makes me stronger and more capable.
Plus, as a Mistress, I get to meet a lot of cool people I might not otherwise have met. I get to hear their stories, find out what excites them. It’s very interesting most of the time, and I hope I can continue doing it for many more years.
So now I’m going to turn it over to you guys. Tell me: How do you define yourself? What label(s) do you use, and how has your definition(s) of that/those label(s) changed over the years? If you could describe yourself in 25 words or less, how would you do it? Could you do it? Drop me a comment to let me know!
Until next time!
Hugs,
Ms Kay Marie
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